If you look at me and not talk after a while ... 'embarrasses me? Why??
A pause in a silent communication flowing is tolerable, and not cause embarrassment, if it lasts more than 4 seconds: past, becomes an indicator that something is wrong - a disagreement, a discussion - and becomes painful to bear and pass unnoticed. To put pen to paper the "psychology of silence is Namkje Koudenburg, a Dutch scholar of the Department of Psychology, University Groningen, in an article published on Journal of Experimental Social Psychology .
The study was based on two different experiments conducted on 162 university students. Behind it all, he explains, there are the instincts of social acceptance and belonging, and the primal fear of being excluded from their social network and friendship: "We found that a fluent conversation, as well as being very nice, informs us that things are going well. It means that we are part of this group, and we agree with each other. This type of conversation is used to establish membership, self-esteem and provides a social validation. " In the experiments
volunteers had to simulate situations and conversations with these appropriate, identifying in particular subjects. The study found that those who have experienced during simulated conversations, a silence for more than 4 seconds, said to try "fear and pain" and feeling "in difficulty and rejected."
So dear friends we are now more attentive to our party .... and the observer to count the breaks;)
A pause in a silent communication flowing is tolerable, and not cause embarrassment, if it lasts more than 4 seconds: past, becomes an indicator that something is wrong - a disagreement, a discussion - and becomes painful to bear and pass unnoticed. To put pen to paper the "psychology of silence is Namkje Koudenburg, a Dutch scholar of the Department of Psychology, University Groningen, in an article published on Journal of Experimental Social Psychology .
The study was based on two different experiments conducted on 162 university students. Behind it all, he explains, there are the instincts of social acceptance and belonging, and the primal fear of being excluded from their social network and friendship: "We found that a fluent conversation, as well as being very nice, informs us that things are going well. It means that we are part of this group, and we agree with each other. This type of conversation is used to establish membership, self-esteem and provides a social validation. " In the experiments
volunteers had to simulate situations and conversations with these appropriate, identifying in particular subjects. The study found that those who have experienced during simulated conversations, a silence for more than 4 seconds, said to try "fear and pain" and feeling "in difficulty and rejected."
So dear friends we are now more attentive to our party .... and the observer to count the breaks;)
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